The topic that comes up most often for me over the past 28 years has been loss. Honestly, winning is not a huge topic. Because, few people win. Out of 100 runners there is one winner. Out of every business competing for the one contract there is one winner. In war there is only one winner. Everyone thinks they want to know how to win, but they soon discover that the first thing they experience is loss.
Even the one out of a million who wins the first time, eventually faces loss. But no one thinks of loss and recover; they just want to win. That is the tragedy of winning: you must master losing…period.
Here is the truth parents and bosses and leaders ought to be openly teaching the youth, the understudies, and the team, you are going to lose, you are going to hurt, you are going to go sideways, you are going to spend money ineffectively, you are going to make enemies. There is no avoiding loss, loss is the only for sure aspect of growth. Winning actually may never happen. But the only access to winning is recovering from loss.